antenatal, birth plan, pregnancy

Birth Plan!

Birth Plan!
Read an article this weekend in Waitrose Weekend – Q & A’s to Kirsty Allsop.
One question was “What’s the best piece of advice you’ve been given?”
Kirsty answered – “Nobody makes a birth plan the second time!”

Educating yourself so that you and your partner know about all the choice’s open to you for labour and delivery is really important. Starting from where to deliver your baby, through to knowledge about the 3 stage’s of labour, as well as strategies for self help coping mechanisms in labour as well as all the pain relief options. Common occurances in labour is another useful topic too.

As a practising midwife for the last 20 years, I have put lots of thought into the content of my classes, and aim to educate couples so that they can make informed choice re the above.

Preparation is key and knowledge is powerful. However, it really is best to keep an open mind as to how your labour may go. Mother Nature can sometimes interrupt the best laid plans, so if you keep an open mind, you are less likely to feel that your birth plan do not go “to plan”.

antenatal, postnatal

Co-sleeping/ bed sharing with your baby guidance

The Lullaby Trust (formally known as FSIDS – Foundation for Studies in Infant Death (Cot Death)) have issued a statement which is helpful with regards to advice on sleeping with your baby – we call this co-sleeping or bed sharing.

The organisation’s website gives some very clear and useful advice to parents on safe sleeping for babies, as well as support services they provide, and I always recommend it for sound reading for my clients.

This last week it issued a new statement; link below:

http://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/new-design-website/media-centre/media-centre-bmj-bed-sharing

Particularly helpful too is their new website section on safer sleeping too; rich with good advice:

http://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/new-design/safer-sleep/safer-sleep

They have a downloadable version too.

antenatal, pregnancy

When do I start to feel my baby move in pregnancy?

This is a frequently asked question that I often get asked! Feeling the baby move is an exciting day in your pregnancy as it is, and will become, your way of “touching” base with your baby!

Most women, particularly when it is your first pregnancy, do not feel the baby move until between 16 – 20 weeks of pregnancy. For first time Mums’s, and women who have a high BMI , it is often nearer 20 weeks than 16, so don’t  worry, but rather wait patiently!  For second time and over Mum’s, it can often be a little bit earlier than that.

The womb or uterus is still protected in the bony pelvis until about 12 weeks, when the growing womb/uterus starts emerging out of the pelvis. It is often not until 16 weeks and over that you start to feel movements, as around then the baby has grown enough in size  that the movements can be then be felt by you.

I generally as a midwife do not describe the feeling of perceiving the first movements, as essentially, you will recognize it when you do feel it! Some do though describe it as a “flutter” or “bubble like”.

Initially you may not feel your baby move everyday either so don’t let that worry you. However most do feel movements every day from around 24 weeks, and there after it is important that you are happy that the baby is active moving inside you, and if not, to report this to your midwife or doctor.

And to finish…some advice for Dad’s/ husband’s/partners who are wanting to feel their baby’s movements – this is often not possible until around the third trimester which is 30 weeks and over. Again keep trying and be patient, you will eventually feel the baby kick and if the baby is having a mad activity session, somersaulting etc, you can even watch the pregnant tummy moving!

Pregnancy is fascinating!